December Newsletter

Office Address
2295 S. Hiawassee Rd, Suite 309
Orlando, FL 32835
Phone: 407-278-1598


Dr. Darlene Treese
PO Box 547
Windermere, FL 34786
Cell/Text (480) 296-3358

'Tis The Season To Be Selfish

"Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live." --Goethe

The holidays are here! Are you celebrating in joyful anticipation or wishing you could hide in a cave until it's all over? When did you lose the sacredness of your "holy-days" in the demands of doing what you think others expect? We blame the media and merchants for commercializing these times yet seldom accept responsibility for our personal choices. Indeed, it is a time for outrageous celebrations and good memories will last a lifetime if you are filled with joy and happiness. But how often are you truly happy and peaceful? What memories are you creating? Consider how wonderfully different your holidays will be this year if you choose to be selfish.

Be selfish with your body: Why be cranky and tired?
Get sufficient rest. Take hot baths with candlelight and soft music. Avoid fasting then binging. Take long, slow walks, especially with children. Look. Move gracefully. Skip. Sing. Dance without caring what others think. Smile. Breathe in all the wonderful sights and smells. Breathe out kind words to those who are cranky and tired.

Be selfish with your mind: Why let negative thoughts dominate?
Look at the abundance of good in your life and feel a sense of gratitude that grows even stronger. Fill your mind with great memories from the past, recalling the smallest details. Experience a deeper sense of self love by complimenting yourself on every triumph over tragedy. Cure what is curable, prevent what is preventable, and enjoy the rest.

Be selfish with your time: Will rushing add enjoyment to each activity?
Set realistic parameters about what you choose to do. Allow more time than you think you will need. Say "No, thanks" to anything that you are doing out of guilt or obligation or to make someone else indebted to you. Plan something fun to do while you are waiting in line. Do worthwhile things that bring you joy and satisfaction to create more joy and inner peace.

Be selfish with your money: Who are you trying to impress?
Decide to cut back on your spending. Agree to exchange white elephant gifts. Honor others with donations to charities made in their name. Tell the kids that there are so many children in the world that Santa is limited to one special gift for each child. Let them be a Santa's helper by purchasing a gift for a needy child with their own money.

Be selfish with your world: What small thing can you do to make it better?
Love your neighbor. Allow for differences of opinions. Be kind to a newcomer. Celebrate diversity. Learn something new about another culture or religion. Teach tolerance. Look at the night sky and know we can truly have a silent night, a holy night where all is calm and all is bright when we are selfish enough to love unconditionally.

Get A Grip on your self-sabotaging beliefs, attitudes and behaviors and live the life you've dreamed of!

Dr. Darlene Treese, LPC, LMHC has been in private practice in hypnosis, coaching, counseling and consulting for over 30 years. She has been internationally acknowledged for her positive action and solution-based therapies with individuals, groups and corporations. "A person for the people," Dr. Dar is always available to help you get a grip on life, health and happiness to take that next step forward in creating the life you truly desire. She offers sessions at her Orlando office, as well as telephone and email consultations. The services she offers include premarital and relationship counseling, marriage enrichment, personality tests and couple compatibility inventories, communication and mediation skills, dealing with the hard problems of abuse, addictions and affairs, CSI (couple sensitive individual therapy), Discernment Counseling for couples on the brink of divorce, and surviving divorce and single parenting.

Call her today at 407-278-1598 or email her at or visit her website - Life is too short to be unhappy and the answers and clarity you seek may be only a phone call away.

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